Helping Kids Feel Confident During Summer Separations
Summer can bring exciting new experiences for children — from day camps and summer programs to visits with relatives and time with new caregivers. While these activities can be fun and enriching, some children may find it challenging to separate from their parents or caregivers at drop-off time.
It’s common for children to cling, cry, or protest when a parent leaves, especially when they are entering a new environment or spending time with unfamiliar adults. Children may worry about whether their caregiver will return or feel unsure about what will happen next. The good news is that parents can help children build confidence and learn that they are safe, supported, and capable.
One of the best ways to make summer transitions easier is to prepare ahead of time. Before camp or a new activity begins, talk with your child about what they can expect. Visit the location if possible, meet the adults who will be there, and allow your child time to become familiar with the space. Children often feel more comfortable when they have a chance to explore a new place before being left there.
Creating a predictable goodbye routine can also help children feel secure. Before leaving, explain where you are going, where your child will be, and when you will return. Try connecting your return to something your child understands, such as “I’ll be back after snack time” or “I’ll pick you up after the afternoon activity.”
When it’s time to say goodbye, keep the routine calm and consistent. A simple pattern — say hello, help your child find an activity, give a hug, say goodbye, and leave — can help children know what to expect. While it may be tempting to stay longer when your child is upset, long goodbyes can sometimes make separation harder. A confident goodbye helps children learn that they can handle the transition.
When your child returns home, take time to reconnect. Ask about their day, show interest in what they did, and praise their efforts. Let them know you noticed their bravery and their ability to try something new.
Summer is a great opportunity for children to practice independence, build relationships, and try new things. With preparation, encouragement, and predictable routines, parents can help their children feel more confident — even when they are spending time apart.
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