Parenting Now!

So that all children are raised by nurturing, skilled parents

  • For Parents & Alumni
    • Parenting Articles
    • Parenting Groups
      • For Parents of Children Aged Zero to Three
      • For Parents of Children Aged Zero to Eight
    • Car Seat Inspections
    • Interested in a Parenting Group?
    • Parenting Resources
    • Healthy Families
    • Opciones en Español
    • For Alumni
  • For Parenting Educators
    • Articles for Parenting Educators
    • Curricula for Parenting Educators
    • Training
    • Enrichment Material
    • Consultation
  • Support Us
    • Hollywood Nights Auction and Gala
    • Mother’s Day 5K
    • Benefit Events
    • Donate Now
    • Sustainer Fund
    • Gifts of Stock
    • Honorary or Memorial Gift
    • Become a Sponsor
    • Planned Giving
    • Other Ways of Giving
    • Donate Items and Services
    • Volunteer at Parenting Now!
  • About Us
    • In The News
    • Results, Financials, and History
    • Board of Directors
    • Staff
    • Supporters
    • Newsletters
    • Frequently Asked Questions
    • Parenting Now!
    • Job Openings
    • Beliefs and Values of Parenting Now!
  • Calendar
Home » Parenting Now! Blog » Transition Tips Help Parents, Children

Transition Tips Help Parents, Children

August 1, 2009 By Peggy Veltman

What do young children in child care and other programs spend most of their time doing during waking hours? It may surprise you to know that most of their time is spent moving from one activity to another. In fact, the expenditure of time spent moving from one activity to another is pretty typical whether your child is in care or not.4383503_xl

Moving or transitioning from one activity to another begins when your child wakes up in the morning. Getting out of bed, bathing, brushing teeth, dressing, eating breakfast, cleaning up, getting into the car or bicycle trailer and arriving at your next destination involves a series of actions during which children are actually leaving one activity and taking up another. Because we are asking children to change what they’re doing frequently and often at our whim, it’s worth thinking about how well we’re doing this.

How well transitions go will depend upon many things, including your child’s current ability to cope with change and at what rate, your child’s communication skills, how much time you have to accomplish what needs to be done, how much sleep you had the night before, how much sleep your child had the night before, whether either of you are feeling unwell or uncomfortable, how much help you have getting to where you need to go, concerns about family, friends or an ailing pet, whether something unforeseen has happened so far, how you’re doing at work or school, heavy traffic and aggressive drivers, weather conditions—you get the picture.

A misstep in how you handle moving your child from one activity to another, even when it’s seemingly become routine, has the potential of coloring his or her day. For instance, tights instead of socks, barrettes instead of ponytails, shoes instead of sandals can, on some days, be more than your child can handle. When you think about it, it’s really not so different for adults. Nothing can impede a transition like discovering that you’ve misplaced your keys when you’re leaving home, or finding you have a dead battery.

It’s not realistic to be well-rested, healthy and positive all of the time. It’s difficult to be at your best and feel your best consistently, no matter how hard you try. Some of these things just aren’t under your control. Your focus must be on what you can control.

Transitions are changes and you are the change agent for your child, meaning, your role is pivotal to the success of the transition. As the change agent, there are things you can do to increase the chances you’ll be able to move your child from one activity to another without incident. The following have worked for me:

  • Try to give yourself plenty of time just in case . . .
  • Use a “transition toy” your child can hold before, during and/or after the move.
  • Describe what’s going to happen next and what he or she can look forward to.
  • Compliment your child on something he or she is doing well.
  • Remind your older child what will happen later in the day.
  • Ask your child care teacher what works at child care.
  • Sing a favorite song together.
  • Make a game out the move, and let your child be the leader.
  • Ask other parents what works for them.

If one strategy doesn’t work, give it more time. If you’re still having problems, make modifications or try something else. Keep at it and you’ll find something that is good for both of you. Good luck.

Peggy Veltman, Ph.D. is currently the interim director of the EMU Moss Street Children’s Center at the University of Oregon. She has worked with parents and young children for 35 years, with an emphasis on improving caregiver/child interactions. She is raising two teenage boys. Parenting Now! is a nonprofit organization dedicated to strengthening families through parenting support and education. Explore this website; visit us on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram; or call 541-484-5316. The free Family Info Line is also available; call 211, extension 5, or send an e-mail to children@211info.org.

Filed Under: For Parents Tagged With: activities, children, families, family, parenting education, transition

About Peggy Veltman

Subscribe to the PN Blog!

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Articles for Parents

  • Our Blog Home
  • For Parents
    • Self-Care
    • Pregnancy
    • Infants
    • Young Child
    • Older Child
  • Children’s Health
  • Child Development
  • Play
  • Family Time/Routines
  • Reading/School Readiness
Donate Now!

Your contributions make a difference!

Facebook logo

For Parents:

  • Parenting Groups
    • Children Age 0-3
    • Children Age 0-8
  • Parenting Resources
  • Opciones en Español
  • For Alumni

Our Organization:

  • About Parenting Now!
  • Results & Financials
  • Our Staff
  • Board of Directors
  • Supporters and FAQs

For Educators:

  • Curricula
  • Training
  • Consultation
  • Newsletter

Support Us:

  • 2018 Auction
  • Donate
  • Volunteer

Calendar

Connect With Us:
Parenting Now!, formerly Birth To Three, is a private non-profit organization that provides parenting education and support to families with young children.
Donate Now!

Your contribution makes a difference!

86 Centennial Loop - Eugene, OR 97401 USA
Phone: 541.484.5316 | Fax: 541.484.1449
Open Monday - Thursday, 9am - 4pm

Copyright © 2019 · Parenting Now! · Privacy Policy · Site by AUMW