It’s understandable that parents may be looking for a quick response or a short-term solution. And in responding to challenging behavior, many parents feel the need to punish or give their children a consequence as a way to modify or change their behavior. While “time out” can be an effective way to respond to challenging behavior, it may be difficult to have a successful time out. Indeed, many children will resist time out, which leads to power struggles.
Two “Promise Neighborhoods” have been identified. One is in Eugene’s Bethel/Trainsong Neighborhood; the other is in Springfield. United Way is focusing on these Promise Neighborhoods to make a measurable difference with limited resources. Once we can prove success in these communities, the effort can be replicated in other high-needs communities across the County.
All parents have to manage their children’s behavior, and setting limits is a particular challenge. Parents may find themselves spending much of their day saying “no” to their kids. Sometimes it’s about safety, such as saying “no” to a toddler who is about to walk out into the street. Other times it’s in response to difficult behavior, such as biting or hitting. Sometimes hearing “no” can result in an angry child who may have an emotional meltdown in response. This is stressful for both parent and child.
For young children, the importance of closeness, touch, eye contact and warm exchanges provide a foundation for how relationships look and feel. As children grow, becoming more mobile and interested in others around them, the need for connection and closeness is still at the core of their healthy development and growth.
How well transitions go will depend upon many things, including your child’s current ability to cope with change and at what rate, your child’s communication skills, how much time you have to accomplish what needs to be done, how much sleep you had the night before, how much sleep your child had the night before, whether either of you are feeling unwell or uncomfortable, how much help you have getting to where you need to go, concerns about family, friends or an ailing pet, whether something unforeseen has happened so far, how you’re doing at work or school, heavy traffic and aggressive drivers, weather conditions—you get the picture.