Parents might be great at setting limits with homework, chores and dating, but they can feel they have entered new territory when it comes to rules around cell phones, the Internet, Facebook, texting, iPods and electronic games. And, teenagers can be so emphatic in demanding that they need total freedom with their gadgets!
For parents and adolescents who may be experiencing conflict, the mediation model includes two mediators; one adult and one teen. This approach addresses, to a certain extent, an adolescent’s concern that an adult mediator might be biased in favor of the parent. But even more importantly, it addresses the ages-old refrain, spoken almost universally by adolescents to their parents, “You just don’t understand me!” It turns out that a teen mediator actually is better at decoding what the adolescent is trying to communicate and, through artful questioning and encouragement, is able to help the parent to understand. By involving a teen mediator in the process, the adolescent is more likely to feel heard and respected.
While it is vital to recognize and validate the amazing work that involved, loving mothers do each day in raising and nurturing healthy children, it is equally as important to affirm the role of positive, loving fathers and father figures.
Whether we are dealing with huge problems or everyday hassles, we parents need to keep our cups full. We can’t easily solve long-term serious problems; however, there are small things we can do that help. They don’t have to cost a lot of money or take a lot of time.
It is time to make positive changes in our lives, to view what didn’t go as planned in the previous year as missed opportunities and learn from them. It is our sincere attempt to have a happier new year.
All parents have to manage their children’s behavior, and setting limits is a particular challenge. Parents may find themselves spending much of their day saying “no” to their kids. Sometimes it’s about safety, such as saying “no” to a toddler who is about to walk out into the street. Other times it’s in response to difficult behavior, such as biting or hitting. Sometimes hearing “no” can result in an angry child who may have an emotional meltdown in response. This is stressful for both parent and child.
How much and how well our children learn throughout life is determined largely by the variety of beneficial experiences in which they participate in their first few years of life.
Vision impairment, even small irregularities, can have a profound impact on development. Early diagnosis and prevention are the best approach to infant vision and eye health care because most conditions respond best to early treatment, before additional complications arise.
For young children, the importance of closeness, touch, eye contact and warm exchanges provide a foundation for how relationships look and feel. As children grow, becoming more mobile and interested in others around them, the need for connection and closeness is still at the core of their healthy development and growth.
How well transitions go will depend upon many things, including your child’s current ability to cope with change and at what rate, your child’s communication skills, how much time you have to accomplish what needs to be done, how much sleep you had the night before, how much sleep your child had the night before, whether either of you are feeling unwell or uncomfortable, how much help you have getting to where you need to go, concerns about family, friends or an ailing pet, whether something unforeseen has happened so far, how you’re doing at work or school, heavy traffic and aggressive drivers, weather conditions—you get the picture.