An unavoidable part of parenting is setting limits. In the first part of Triple P’s Disobedience series, we looked at setting limits for curious toddlers. In this post, we explore how to create reasonable expectations and set fair limits for preschoolers.
The mind of a preschooler is like a sponge, absorbing all sorts of information about their world. From shapes to colors, to what it means to share and be a friend, preschoolers are eager to learn and demonstrate their new skills or share exciting facts on everything from dinosaurs to Disney princesses.
During this developmental period, your preschooler starts making more independent choices and having specific preferences for things. This independence streak sometimes looks like disobedience or “misbehavior” when a child doesn’t follow your house rules or has a tantrum when asked to do something they don’t want to do.
Instead of looking at the behavior as disobedience, try reframing it as an opportunity to set firm and consistent limits that allow your preschooler to retain their new-found independence and sense of identity while still following the rules of your home and society.
We can’t expect young children to always meet our expectations for their behavior or do everything we say. But, in some cases, misbehavior (or more accurately miscommunication) can be avoided by looking at how we give instructions.
For more tips on preventing misbehavior and to read the full article, visit lanekids.org.
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