If parents are not proactive in addressing their own stress, they might unknowingly overlook the signs and symptoms of stress in their children. There is a danger in this, as young people are then left unsupported in identifying stress, and without the necessary tools and resources to manage it in a world where stress is escalating.
Our most lasting gifts come from how we are raised by our parents. Parenting Now! , formerly Birth To Three, asked community members to reminisce about their upbringing. Here are excerpts from their responses.
“Born in 1930 just as the Depression was descending on almost all families, I know my parents had a difficult time running a small business and raising my brother and me. Despite the times, my parents were always upbeat. I learned that money was not important, but behavior was. Good manners were insisted on and doing what is right and fair was firmly embedded in our psyches.”
The research can help us understand how a baby’s mind is formed and what we can do as parents to help our children be their best. Much of this research supports what many parents already do: read to their children, talk with them, interact with them. Some of the research tells us how to do these things better; how to ask questions and engage our children with the written words in ways that increase their understanding and brain development.
How do we begin? First, by defining the problem to be outside, separate from ourselves. An example might be, “We need to find a better way to deal with the laundry” (a situation) rather than, “You never help with the laundry” (which makes your partner the problem).
Another important piece of the fearless problem-solving process is for each person to say what each wants in regard to the situation, rather than what’s wrong about it. For some of us, saying what we want is more unfamiliar and challenging than to say what’s wrong. However, an essential part of defining the problem is listening to and exploring what each wants and how close or far apart the wants are.
The Community/Family Resource Centers are located in schools throughout rural and urban areas of Lane County. From Oakridge to Cottage Grove, CFRCs offer a variety of free activities for all families. The CFRCs are supported by the Lane County Commission on Children and Families and local school districts. Many also receive additional funding from LaneCare, non-profits, service organizations, local business, and community members who volunteer their time.
It’s fairly common for all of us parents to wonder if we are doing the best job possible in raising our children. After all, the day-to-day reality of child-rearing is a mix of, as Birth To Three says, “joy, exhaustion, challenge, stress and delight.” Being a parent can be overwhelming. At some point, every one of us will be tested, no matter what our intentions or resolutions may be.
If your goal is to have a cooperative child who interacts with you, it will require your active participation by having interactive exchanges with your child. But the benefits are huge – you and your child develop and strengthen your relationship as you increase your ability to communicate with each other. In other words, your child learns how to speak to you, and how to listen to you. Those of you who have teenagers know how important cooperation and communication can be, and these skills are developed during a child’s early years. Interactive exchanges are a short-term objective that meets the long-term goal of a healthy parent-child relationship.
Multi-tasking. If you’re a parent, you’re probably a pro. You know the drill: one ear on the phone, the other listening for baby. One hand spreading jam, the other checking e-mail.
You feel like you’re getting lots done, but you rarely feel peaceful. The truth is, according to recent research, multitasking can actually reduce your efficiency and endanger your health. If you’ve ever had to re-make dinner because you burned it while answering e-mails, or if your adrenaline regularly pumps overtime as you try to do four things at once, read on.
Studies have shown that an expecting mother’s poor oral health may lead to an increased risk for having preterm labor, premature delivery, low birth weight babies and twice the chance of developing preeclampsia. In February 2010, the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology noted that bacteria from an expectant mother’s mouth had caused a stillbirth at 36 weeks.
As parents, our goal is to raise our children to be as healthy and productive as they can be. Simple preventive measures or early routine treatment will make a difference in your child’s oral health.
Fetal-infant mortality rates are like the tip of an iceberg. Beneath the surface are health, social and economic factors that work together to continue to put more babies at risk. These rates are a well-established, accepted marker for the health and well-being of a nation, state, region or community.